The Employee Engagement Bermuda Triangle (EEBT), a metaphor for mystery, misdirection and disaster in the work place, can actually have many different shapes and sizes.
This week we will talk about the EEBT ‘Co-Deceptive State’. In our experience, this state is more common than the ‘Perfect Storm’, but can be just as perilous for employee engagement.
A well-meaning manager can spend a lot of time understanding what an employee wants out of work, but if the employee’s self-perception is far out of whack the manager can become complicit in assigning roles or tasks that continue to frustrate the employee. There may be strong agreement in career-advancement opportunities, but the employee will struggle to meet goals to take that step, and suffer from poor job fit. Without being able to execute effectively on established goals, the manager will be wary of giving the employee higher-stakes assignments that will prepare for that next promotion, and the employee may end up being resentful of the manager for not following through on career advancement commitments.
It looks like this:
How Did It Come to This?
Inevitably, the statement ‘the customer is always right’ leads to a lot of debate. While some people will say, ‘ask your customers what they want’ the discussion typically ends with someone quoting Henry Ford:
“If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.”
In other words, if all you do is ask the customer what they want, you miss out on an opportunity to add value in a way that the customer didn’t expect. Henry ford was in a unique position to see a new opportunity that the layperson did not: a mass-produced car.
Much like Mr. Ford, the manager needs to leverage their own unique position (experience, broader view of the business, objective view of the employee’s behaviour and abilities, etc.) to gain a better understanding of the employees innate talents and motivators. The co-deceptive state can happen when the manager relies too much on the employee’s (incorrect) opinion of themselves, instead of other means at the manager’s disposal.
Several things can increase the chances of this happening: If a person wants to be something they are not, they can certainly put on a good act, which may be very hard for even a seasoned manager to see through. The high paced work environment drives many managers to reduce the amount of time they spend monitoring their employees’ performance and behaviours. The increasing prevalence of teleworkers and geographically-dispersed teams can make it difficult to gain a good understanding of an employee. Finally, some managers just don’t have the knack for reading people (but are good at other aspects of management). If you are having trouble thinking about your own experiences with this, think back to the first few years of your career; who were you trying to be?
Sources of Engagement
Previously, we discussed some of the key elements of engagement, and it is worth noting how this co-deceptive state has a negative impact on these elements:
- A Feeling of Security
- A Sense of Purpose
- To Satisfy a Desire for Mastery
Lets talk about Bob (not his real name), who has been made a member of a team deciding on technology direction for a high tech firm. Diligence in his past roles has shown that he is able to become a subject matter expert in any technical topic, and has proven that he can facilitate complex discussions with the top technical talent in the organization. What Bob and his manager don’t know is that 1) Bob has an innate desire to help and develop people, and 2) he just can’t bring himself to care about the technology in question. Based on biannual performance reviews, both the manager and the employee generally agree on the employee’s skills, strengths and motivators.
Security: This employee can’t help but feel insecure. He is surrounded by people who debate the subject matter with a passion that the employee just can’t find in himself. How can Bob compete with people that have so much passion for the technology? He is exhausting all his ‘self-control’ trying to stay remotely as interested as his peers in the subject matter, and wonders what is wrong with him.
Purpose: Bob understands that what the group does is important, it helps define the future direction of the company, but the purpose is very misaligned with his own (unknown) inner purpose, to help & develop people. Each week Bob finds himself asking, “Is this really going to be my contribution to the world?”
Mastery: Bob, is a fabulous guitar player. He practices –on average– 5 hours a week and most of his friends regard him as the ‘best guitar player they know’. He clearly has a desire for mastery in the things that he is passionate about, but in his job this is absent. He is constantly trying to find his niche, where he can find the purpose he desires; as a result he is falling behind his peers in his level of technical competence, and never feels ‘in the zone’. When his peers take home technical papers for review, Bob just picks up his guitar.
Bob’s manager is constantly perplexed at Bob’s unwillingness to grasp new opportunities that would extend his technical capability. They had agreed upon Bob’s development targets, and his next career move: an external representative in technical standards. Bob’s manager just can’t see how Bob will be able to take that next step; while his peers get into heated debates about the minutia of a new technology, Bob just seems to stare off into space.
How can you diminish the EEBT?
There are a lot of ways to approach the challenge of reducing the area of the EEBT. Suggestions for the Co-deceptive State closely follow the suggestions for the ‘Perfect Storm’, with the exception that the manager and employee already seem to be communicating.
For the employee, they can use assessment tools to better understand themselves, like the Strong Interest Inventory, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Career Drivers, 360 surveys or our favourite, the Clifton Strengthfinder. Another useful approach is to write down occasions where they experienced a state of flow –being “fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement and success in the process of the activity”– and trying to identify what were the common elements in those experiences.
The manager can suggest that the employee use the techniques above and then discuss the results. Or, independently and where possible, a manager can dig into the employee’s past roles and discuss with past supervisors where they tended to express their talents and motivations most. Asking peers about their perceptions of the employee can be a great resource for either the employee or manager.
Once their is a better understanding of the employee’s key strengths and motivators, techniques like Job Crafting can be used to make the existing role much more engaging for the employee. In cases where there just isn’t a way to create an alignment between the employee’s talents and motivators, and the business objectives of the group, other roles within the organization should be explored. Employees are a valuable asset, and engaged employees are many times more valuable to your organization.
More on the EEBT
There are other scenarios that still allow a lot of room to get lost in this Employee Engagement Bermuda Triangle, which will be the topic of future (and past) posts. These include:
- The Misdirected Self-Aware EEBT
- The Deceptive EEBT
- The EEBT ‘Perfect Storm’
We will explore these with the intent to get to the ‘Ideal’ state where all three pebbles converge.




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